It's Ok To Need Support (we all need it)

It’s ok to need support (we all need it)

Everyone needs support.  Period.  Even if you think you can do it all yourself.

It doesn’t matter what it is:




A listening ear

A babysitter

Business help

An accountability partner

A reminder to take care of yourself

Or, help packing all of your belongings into a truck and moving a few states away.


You’re gonna need some help. 

As Desmond and I get ready to make our move to the Jersey Shore, I’m reflecting on what support really means, and how just existing around other people is support enough sometimes. 

Having a community to belong to is huge, and Baltimore has been an incredible community for both of us.  It’s something I’ll miss deeply, but am also so grateful for the age we live in and that really that community support never has to end.

(That being said, I’m still booking workshops and lectures in Baltimore, and the work I do with clients is 100% online and by phone, so we can keep doing what we’re doing!)

But really, what I’m getting at is it’s ok to ask for help.

Really, it is.

Many of us were brought up to never depend on anyone else, and that if you want something done right you have to do it yourself.  And yet, so many of us are totally burnt out and overwhelmed.

Outsource whatever you can.  There’s no shame in that.

Maybe you have a few extra bucks to hire a cleaner to come once a week to your house.  Or, maybe you can ask a friend to help you lift some heavy shit.  Or maybe you can hire a personal trainer to help you figure out what movement you should do (and to help you stick to it). Or maybe you can use a free service like 7 Cups of Tea to talk things out when they’re feeling heavy.

No. Shame.

Ask yourself today where you could use some support, and then go out and get it.